I Think Our Son is Gay

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  Posted by Readers in Japan

  Jun 19, 2025 (PST) | Translate to English
  息子視点
  Son's point of view
  レビューを書いてる方の多くがこういうお母さんになりたい、などお母さん視点が多いですが自分はゲイで共感できる所などがすごくあったので自分と比べながら息子視点になって思う事を書かせて頂きます。世間的にもゲイなどが昔に比べ多様性として認められてきてる中、それでも多様性という言葉で表されてる時点で変わってるのか、普通じゃないのか、そう思ってしまってしまいます。漫画のように学校の男友達を好きになるという事はあります。そりゃ相手が異性が好きなら結ばれないのはしょうがない、相手は悪くない、でも自分も悪くない、相手が「同性に好かれるのは気持ち悪い｣と思ってもそれは自分が「同性が好き｣というのと同じで人それぞれの思うことであり、どちらも悪いことでは無い、そう思っています。でもどうしても割合的には異性を恋愛対象に見る人が多く、普通に異性が好きで産まれてきたら辛い思いをしなかったのかなとか沢山考えてしまいます。何だかんだ親には話したら分かってくれると思っていても中々言いずらいし、友達にはキモがられるかな。距離が空いてしまうかな、そういう事を考えてしまいます。相手はもちろん自分をゲイだと思っていないので日常の会話で「ゲイは無理｣などそういう発言を聞くこともありその度やっぱり心が苦しくなります。例え相手がゲイや同性愛者に対して全然良いと思う！、人それぞれだもん！という人であったとしてもその人がいざ同性と付き合うことが出来るかと言われたらそれは違くて凄く難しいなと普段から感じます。この漫画内のお父さんのように息子は好き、悪気もない、でも無意識にゲイを批判してしまう事などを言ってしまい傷つけてしまうこういう事もしょっちゅうあります。でも言われてる本人は悪意がないのが丸わかりなので傷つきながらも我慢したりもよくあります。本当に難しい…実際に自分がこの作品、レビューをみて思う事は本当にリアルな事が描かれていてそれに対してキモイなどではなく自分もそういう姿勢で見守ってあげたい、こういうお母さんでありたいなど優しい言葉をかけてくれる人が多くて素直に嬉しいです。異性愛者が同性を好きになろうとするのは簡単に出来ることじゃない、それは本人も分かってる。「私は同性愛者を好きになることはできないけど人それぞれ！悪い事じゃない！友達としては仲良くしたい！｣そう思ってくれるような人が増えてくれる事を願います。

  Many of the people writing reviews have many mothers' perspectives, such as wanting to be this kind of mother, but I'm gay and there were so many places I could sympathize with, so I'm going to write what I think from my son's point of view while comparing it to myself. While gays and the like have been recognized as diverse in the world compared to the past, it still makes me wonder if it has changed or if it is not normal when it is expressed by the word diversity. There are times when people fall in love with their male friends at school, just like in comics. Well, if your partner likes the opposite sex, there's no point in not getting together; your partner isn't bad, but you're not bad either; even if your partner thinks “it's disgusting to be liked by people of the same sex,” it's just like saying they “like the same sex,” and it's something that each person thinks, and I think neither is a bad thing. But no matter what, there are many people who see the opposite sex as romantic objects in terms of ratio, and they usually like the opposite sex and think a lot about whether they wouldn't have had a hard time if they were born. It's hard to say something, even if you think that if you talk to your parents, they'll understand it, and I wonder if my friends will be scolded. I wonder if the distance will run out, that kind of thing makes me think. Of course, my partner doesn't think I'm gay, so I sometimes hear such statements such as “gay is impossible” in everyday conversation, and it still makes my heart ache every time. I think my partner is totally good against gays and homosexuals! It's different for each person! Even if that person is someone like that, I usually feel that it is different and extremely difficult when that person is asked if they can go out with someone of the same sex. There are always things like this that hurt my son by saying things like the father in this comic that he likes and isn't offensive, but he unknowingly criticizes gays, etc. However, since I can fully understand that the person being told has no malice, they often put up with it even though they are hurt. It's really difficult... What I actually think when I see this work and review is that it depicts something really real, and I'm honestly happy that there are so many people who say kind words, such as I want to watch over them with that attitude, and I want to be this kind of mother. It's not easy for heterosexuals to fall in love with the same sex, and the person himself knows that. “I can't fall in love with homosexuals, but everyone is different! That's not a bad thing! As friends, we want to be good friends!” I hope the number of people who think so will increase.

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  Posted by Readers in Japan

  May 24, 2025 (PST) | Translate to English
  あたたかさに泣きそうになる
  I almost cry so warmly
  以前から気になっていた作品でしたが、本当に読んで良かったです！最初は親子のやり取りをほほえましく読み、最後は家族の成長、絆や愛に泣きそうになりました。自分に出来ることは限られているけど、知ることや当たり前のこととなる未来に足枷にはならないように気をつけたいと思いました。また、ママ友との会話のシーンはどちらの気持ちも分かるゆえに胸がキュッとなりました。家族とのあたたかさだけでなく、対人関係や感情表現も素晴らしい作品でした。繰り返し読みたい作品です。

  It's a work I've been interested in for a while, and I'm really glad I read it! At first, I read the exchange between parents and children with a smile, and at the end, I almost cried over the growth, bonds, and love of the family. What I can do is limited, but I wanted to be careful not to be shackled by what I know or a future where things are taken for granted. Also, the scene of the conversation with my mom's friend made my heart cringe because I understood both feelings. It was a wonderful work not only for the warmth with the family, but also for the interpersonal relationships and emotional expression. It's a work I want to read over and over again.

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  Posted by Readers in Japan

  Apr 10, 2024 (PST) | Translate to English
  家族
  family
  This review contains spoilers. 5巻完結。pixivで読んでいたけど、コミックスは話が完全版？になっていていいね。最後のおくら先生のあとがき、本当にそうなることがいいなと思う。「ゲイは隠すもの」という認識は、周囲の形に当て嵌めていないとならないという恐怖や恐れ、回避を感じとっているからかもしれない。性的嗜好もセクシャリティも、他者が規定するものでなくなるといい。ジェンダー問題で散々してきているんだけどな…家族は、愛情や関心を持ち家族になろうとして家族になる。ただ一緒にいるだけで家族にならない場合もある。このお母さんは、子どもが自分で願う幸せを掴んで欲しいと願っている。アンコンシャス・バイアスに気をつけようと心がけている。素敵なことだなと感じる。「おっパン」やこの作品のようなメッセージが、もっと浸透するといいな。

  This review contains spoilers. Volume 5 completed. I was reading it on pixiv, but is the comic a complete story? It would be nice if it became. I really think it would be nice for Okura-sensei's last afterword to be like that. The perception that “gays are hidden” may be because they feel fear, fear, and avoidance that they must fit into the shape of their surroundings. It would be nice if neither sexual preference nor sexuality were defined by others. There have been a lot of issues due to gender issues, but... families become families in an attempt to become a family with love and interest. There are times when we don't become a family just by being together. This mother wants her child to seize the happiness she wishes for herself. I try to be careful about unconscious bias. I feel it's a wonderful thing. I hope that messages like “OPPAN” and this work will spread even more.

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